One-to-One Coaching

Think of it this way...

Elite sports people have a coach. They wouldn’t be without one. The coach is an essential part of the ongoing process of any elite sports person reaching their full potential.

If it’s tennis then you get a tennis coach, football, then a football coach. If you want to be the best you can be in your chosen sport, you need a coach.

So, if you want to be the absolute best you can be and excel in life then get a coach.

That’s me.

Wherever you are feeling stuck, frustrated, overwhelmed, unsure of the future and how to move into it, I can help you figure it out, set goals and move towards them.

If you feel unfulfilled in your work, relationships, the direction of your life, or lack of it. If you strongly feel that there must be more for you, more joy, more adventure, more love, more laughter. Maybe more success, satisfaction, fulfilment of dreams and ambitions.

If you desire personal growth, a greater self confidence and want to unlock all of that potential that is within you, well then I can help you. No 5 step programs no miracle formulas. Together we will go on a journey of self discovery, I’ll support you, encourage you, keep you focused.

We will replace doubt with confidence, fear with courage and hope.

Together we will walk you out of your comfort zone and into new opportunities, experiences and life giving spaces.

I’ll help you identify negative mindsets, habits and choices that could be holding you back and provide you with the tools to make and keep hold of healthy, positive transformative practices that will steer you towards a greater sense of being exactly where you want to be and becoming the person you know you should be and can be.

My specialist areas and passion:
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MEN

Self-Awareness & Emotional Intelligence

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CREATIVES

Art, Writing, Music, Design & more

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RELATIONSHIPS

Future-oriented & Goal-focused

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RESILIENCE

Thriving in the face of adversity

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WORK & LIFE

Proactive approach to harmony

Men

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In my conversations with women the two constant areas of character evident in men that they are looking for are:

1. Self Awareness
2. Emotional Intelligence

I’ve lost count of the times I’ve had conversations with women who tell me they are looking for a man with high levels of self awareness and emotional intelligence.

One of my coaching specialities and great passions is to help men develop these areas of their life. I know from seeing men develop in these areas as well as from personal experience that growing in these two key areas will be transformational and life changing. The pay off is absolutely worth the time and effort involved.

Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is the cornerstone of personal growth and development. It is the ability to objectively assess oneself, including one’s thoughts, emotions, strengths, weaknesses, and behavioural patterns. Individuals with high levels of self-awareness are better equipped to make informed decisions, manage their emotions effectively, build strong relationships, and achieve their goals.

Many individuals underestimate their own abilities and focus on their weaknesses. By identifying and leveraging their strengths, individuals can build confidence, boost their self-esteem, and achieve greater success.

For men, self-awareness can be particularly beneficial due to societal expectations and stereotypes that may influence their behaviour and emotions.

Here are a few reasons why self-awareness is important for men:

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Self-Awareness

1. Breaking stereotypes

Society often imposes certain expectations on men, such as being strong, stoic, and unemotional. However, self-awareness allows men to challenge these stereotypes and embrace their full range of emotions, thoughts, and vulnerabilities. By being self-aware, men can explore and express their true selves, rather than conforming to societal expectations.

2. Mental Health

Men often face unique challenges when it comes to mental health, including stigma and a reluctance to seek help. Being self-aware allows men to recognise and address any issues they may be facing, such as stress, anxiety, or depression. By acknowledging their own mental health needs, men can seek appropriate support and take steps towards overall well-being.

3. Authenticity

Self-awareness helps men to connect with their authentic selves and live in alignment with their values and beliefs. By understanding their own strengths, weaknesses, and motivations, men can make choices that are true to who they are, rather than trying to fit into societal expectations or others’ opinions.

4. Healthy Relationships

Being self-aware enables men to have healthier and more fulfilling relationships. By understanding their own needs, desires, and boundaries, men can establish and maintain healthy boundaries, communicate effectively, and develop empathy towards their partners. This self-awareness also allows them to recognise and address any unhealthy patterns or behaviours that may be affecting their relationships.

When it comes to romantic relationships women are often attracted to men with self-awareness for several reasons:

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Romantic Relationships

1. Emotional Connection

A man who is self-aware is more likely to have a deeper understanding of his own emotions and be able to communicate them effectively. This can create a stronger emotional connection and intimacy in a relationship.

2. Empathy & Understanding

Self-awareness allows a man to not only understand his own emotions but also be more empathetic and understanding towards the emotions of others, including his partner. This can foster a supportive and nurturing environment in the relationship.

3. Effective Communication

Self-awareness helps men recognise their own communication patterns and styles, enabling them to express themselves clearly and listen actively. This promotes healthier and more effective communication, reducing misunderstandings and conflicts in the relationship

4. Accountability & Growth

A man with self-awareness takes responsibility for his actions, behaviours, and their impact on the relationship. He is more open to feedback and willing to work on personal growth, which can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling partnership.

5. Respect for Boundaries

Self-awareness allows a man to understand his own needs, values, and limits. This makes him more likely to respect and honour the boundaries of his partner, creating a sense of safety and trust in the relationship

6. Relationship Satisfaction

When both partners possess self-awareness, it can create a dynamic where each person is actively working on their personal growth and understanding of themselves. This can lead to a more satisfying and fulfilling relationship as both individuals continue to evolve and support each other in their journey.

It is important to note that these reasons can vary from person to person, and not all women may prioritise self-awareness in a partner. However, overall, self-awareness is often seen as a desirable trait because it contributes to healthy communication, emotional connection, and personal growth within a relationship.

I can help you develop your level of self awareness and improve your existing relationship or enhance your ability to find the partner you are looking for.

Emotional Intelligence

Alongside Self Awareness, Emotional Intelligence is the key area women regularly communicate to me as being the most desired character trait in a potential partner. Development in this area is not exclusively beneficial in improving personal relationships but will help in many other areas of life including your work life, ability to lead well and be a great team player.

I specialise in helping men develop in this area.

Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognise, understand, and manage one’s own emotions, as well as to recognise and empathise with the emotions of others. It involves a set of skills that enable individuals to navigate and respond effectively to their own emotions and the emotions of those around them.

There are several key components of emotional intelligence:

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Emotional Intelligence

1. Self-Awareness

This involves recognising and understanding one’s own emotions, thoughts, and behaviours. It includes being aware of one’s strengths and weaknesses, values, and beliefs. Self-awareness allows individuals to understand how their emotions impact their actions and decision-making.

2. Self-Regulation

This component involves effectively managing and controlling one’s emotions. It includes being able to regulate impulsive reactions and responses, and instead choosing more appropriate and constructive ways to express and manage emotions. Self-regulation allows individuals to stay calm and composed in challenging situations.

3. Motivation

Emotional intelligence includes the ability to harness and direct emotions towards achieving goals. It involves having a sense of purpose, setting meaningful goals, and being driven to achieve them. Motivated individuals are often resilient and persistent in the face of obstacles.

4. Empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It involves being able to recognise and appreciate different perspectives, and to respond with compassion and sensitivity. Empathy allows individuals to build strong relationships, communicate effectively, and provide support to others.

5. Social Skills

This component refers to the ability to navigate social situations and build positive relationships. It includes effective communication, active listening, conflict resolution, and teamwork. Individuals with strong social skills are adept at building rapport and fostering collaboration.

Emotional intelligence is a valuable skillset in various aspects of life, including personal relationships, leadership, teamwork, and decision-making. It helps individuals understand and manage their own emotions, build stronger connections with others, and navigate social dynamics effectively. Developing emotional intelligence can lead to improved communication, conflict resolution, and overall well-being.

Creatives

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I’m a fellow creative. I spent 20 years + as a song writer and touring musician. I’ve been through the process of taking the initial leaps of faith, managing labels and publishing deals, tour managing, dealing with band members expectations, designing and implementing innovative ideas around touring and merch, balancing financial pressures with wanting to keep moving forward etc etc…. the list goes on.

I’m uniquely placed to help you as you look to explore, develop and achieve your goals in your area of passion.

This area of coaching, working with creatives, is my passion and I’m excited to work with you and see you achieve your goals and realise your dreams.

I will do all I can to providing guidance, support, and encouragement to individuals in creative fields such as art, writing, music, design, or any other artistic pursuit.

Here are some key considerations when coaching creatives:

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Creatives

1. Understanding Your Unique Needs

Creatives often have different motivations, thought processes, and ways of working compared to individuals in more traditional fields. It is crucial to understand your specific challenges, goals, and aspirations to provide effective coaching.

2. Nurture Your Creativity

Creatives thrive when their creative process is respected and nurtured. I will encourage you to explore and experiment, and provide a safe space to express yourself without judgment and look to tap into your unique creativity and find your authentic voice.

3. Set Goals & Provide Structure

While creativity often involves spontaneity, setting clear goals and establishing structure can help you stay focused and productive. We will work to define short-term and long-term goals, and break them down into actionable steps. Regularly review progress and make adjustments as needed.

4. Foster a Growth Mindset

I will help you to embrace a growth mindset, which focuses on continuous learning, resilience, and embracing challenges, see setbacks as opportunities for growth and encourage you to take risks and push their boundaries.

5. Provide Constructive Feedback

Feedback plays a crucial role in the creative process. I will offer specific, constructive feedback that focuses on both strengths and areas for improvement, develop self-awareness and the ability to evaluate your own work critically

6. Address Self-doubt & Imposter Syndrome

Many creatives struggle with self-doubt and imposter syndrome, I know I did, still do! Feeling like you are not good enough or that your work is not valuable. I will try and help you recognise your talents and achievements, challenge negative self-talk, and build your confidence.

7. Balance Creativity & Practicality

Creatives often have different motivations, thought processes, and ways of working compared to individuals in more traditional fields. It is crucial to understand your specific challenges, goals, and aspirations to provide effective coaching.

8. Support Networking & Collaboration

I’ll help encourage you to connect with others in your field, attend events, and collaborate with like-minded individuals. Networking and collaboration can provide valuable opportunities for growth, inspiration, and exposure to new ideas.

Coaching creatives is a highly individualised process. Each creative person is unique, and their coaching needs may vary. My coaching approach will develop to suit your specific circumstances, goals, and personality traits.

Relationships

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Future-oriented & Goal-focused

My relationship coaching focuses on helping individuals and couples improve their relationships, enhance communication and resolve conflicts, providing guidance, support and tools to help you navigate challenges, improve emotional connection, and create more fulfilling partnerships.

Here are some areas that relationship coaching can address:

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Relationships

1. Communication Skills

Relationship coaches help individuals and couples develop effective communication strategies that promote understanding, active listening, and clear expression of thoughts and emotions. They may teach techniques to improve communication and resolve conflicts constructively.

2. Conflict Resolution

Relationship coaches assist clients in identifying and understanding the root causes of conflicts within their relationships. They help individuals and couples develop problem-solving skills, negotiation techniques, and strategies to resolve conflicts in a healthy and respectful manner.

3. Emotional Intelligence

Relationship coaches help clients develop emotional intelligence, which involves recognising, understanding, and managing their own emotions and the emotions of their partners. This can lead to improved empathy, emotional connection, and overall relationship satisfaction.

4. Relationship Goals

Relationship coaches work with clients to identify and clarify their relationship goals, values, and desires. They assist in setting realistic and achievable goals, and help clients align their actions and behaviours with their relationship vision.

5. Intimacy & Connection

Relationship coaches help couples enhance their emotional and physical intimacy, fostering a deeper connection and understanding between partners. They may provide guidance on exploring and fulfilling each other’s needs, building trust, and reigniting the spark in the relationship.

6. Pre-Marital Coaching

I can assist couples who are considering marriage or long-term commitment. I can help you explore important topics such as shared values, communication, conflict resolution, and future goals to ensure a strong foundation for a successful partnership.

It’s important to note that relationship coaching is not therapy or counselling. While therapy focuses on addressing mental health issues and diagnosing disorders, coaching is future-oriented and goal-focused.

Resilience

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I grew up in the 80’s when there was minimal parental supervision and health and safety was not really a thing! I also grew up on a farm where there were plenty of ways to get in to trouble……daily…..which I did! I started work at 16 as an apprentice blacksmith and travelled, on a moped, 1 hour to work and back every day and worked 8am-6pm and 8am-2pm on a Saturday. Resilience just happened back then, well for me anyway.

Things are very different now, my experience raising kids, 2 boys and a girl. Soft play, bike helmets, smart phones, snapchat, YouTube etc., etc., etc., etc… Resilience does not automatically develop in the lives of people as it once did and being more intentional about developing resilience has become necessary.

I first heard the term ‘Man Baby’ a few years ago during a conversation with a woman talking about her struggle to find a partner. It made me laugh but it is true to say there are plenty of Man babys out there and developing resilience will for sure help to address any man baby tendencies. I’m sure there is a female equivalent to the man baby situation I just haven’t yet heard the term……maybe you can enlighten me here?

Coaching on resilience focuses on helping you develop and strengthen your ability to bounce back from challenges, adversity, and setbacks. Resilience coaching aims to build your capacity to adapt, cope, and thrive in the face of adversity, stress, and change.

Here are some key areas that resilience coaching can address:

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Resilience

1. Building Self-Awareness

Resilience coaching starts with helping you develop self-awareness, understanding your strengths, weaknesses, and patterns of thinking and behaviour. I will help you to recognise your resilience levels and identifying areas for growth.

2. Developing a Growth Mindset

I will help you to cultivate a growth mindset, which involves having a positive and flexible attitude towards challenges and setbacks. I will encourage you to view obstacles as opportunities for learning and growth, and to develop a belief in their ability to overcome adversity.

3. Identifying & Leveraging Strengths

My resilience coaching focuses on identifying and leveraging your strengths and resources to build resilience, recognise your existing skills, talents, and support networks, and guide you in utilising these assets to navigate difficult situations.

4. Enhancing Coping Strategies

Together we can develop effective coping strategies to manage stress, adversity, and change.

5. Cultivating Optimism & Positive Thinking

Resilience coaching emphasises the importance of cultivating optimism and positive thinking as a way to build resilience. We will challenge negative thought patterns and develop a more positive and resilient mindset.

6. Building Social Support Networks

I will help you to develop and strengthen your social support networks and assist in identifying and nurturing relationships that provide emotional support, encouragement, and practical assistance during challenging times.

7. Goal Setting & Action Planning

Resilience coaching involves setting goals and creating action plans to build resilience in specific areas of life. I will help you to identify actionable steps and provide accountability and support in working towards these goals.

8. Practicing Self-Care

We will explore the importance of self-care in building resilience and develop self-care practices that promote your physical, mental, and emotional well-being, as self-care is crucial for maintaining resilience during challenging times.

Resilience coaching is beneficial for individuals facing various life challenges, such as work-related stress, personal setbacks, relationship difficulties, or major life transitions.

Work & Life

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Coaching in the area of work-life balance will focus on helping you achieve a healthy and satisfying balance between their professional and personal life. Work-life balance coaching recognises the importance of finding harmony in various areas of life, including work, family, health, and personal interests.

Here are some areas that work-life balance coaching can address:

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Work & Life

1. Goal Setting

I will help you identify your priorities and set realistic goals in various areas of your life. I’ll assist in creating a clear vision of what a balanced life looks like and provide guidance on how to achieve it.

2. Time Management

I’ll help you develop effective time management strategies to optimise productivity, reduce stress, and create more time for personal activities and relationships. Prioritisation, delegation, and setting boundaries to ensure a healthy work-life balance.

3. Boundaries

I’ll assist in setting and maintaining healthy boundaries between work and personal life, establish clear guidelines and strategies to prevent work from encroaching on personal time and vice versa.

4. Stress Management

I’ll provide tools and techniques to help you manage stress and prevent burnout.

5. Self-Care

We will emphasises the importance of self-care and self-nurturing activities, identify your needs and develop self-care practices that promote physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

6. Values Alignment

I can help you align your values and priorities with your daily actions and decisions and help you explore your core values and make choices that support a balanced and fulfilling life.

7. Career Transitions

I’ll support you when considering career changes or seeking better work-life integration and provide guidance on exploring new opportunities, assessing priorities, and making informed decisions about career paths that align with desired lifestyle.

Work-life balance coaching is a proactive approach to achieving harmony and fulfilment in all areas of life. It helps individuals create sustainable habits and make intentional choices that support their well-being and overall satisfaction.

Contact me here to discuss setting up a free consultation.

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